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Would you be my single valentine?

10 Feb

Ahh, the day of love is approaching, right around the corner it waits just for the opportune moment to pounce on all the lovers out there.

But for the love-less, it’s often termed as Doom’s Day or the day of dread. I’d bet your bottom dollar that if we were to get a glimpse into the rooms of the lonely boys and girls out there we would find some moping, sitting on their couch watching sappy romantic movies while gulfing down a tub of ice cream. And I’m telling you now that I’d win that dollar of a bottom gig. Why? Haha, simply because of my research. Yes, I did my background work just to see whether gloating on V day was merely in the movies. Unfortunately, this is one of those cases where movies were based on these people. Yes, the people I interrogated were not going to do anything but hide in their rooms and let the time pass. Dream of the following day where they could avoid the heart-shaped land mines of shameless  PDA. Well–that sounds productive.

Would you really want to waste your day like that? Cower from Cupid’s arrows instead of striking back? Or would you be my single valentine? 😉

Ok, maybe that was a bit harsh.

Now, don’t get me wrong, it’s not that you’re unattractive, for all I know you might be drop dead gorgeous, but this is not me asking you, my reader, out for a date.  This is me asking you whether you want to be a Single Valentiner.

“Oh me, oh my! Whatever could that mean?”

Let me break it down for you. A Single Valentiner, is one who laughs alone in the face of Love.  He/She is not afraid of what the day brings them, and is perfectly fine shining as an independent beacon. In short, MAD RESPECT.

Why do we need someone we fancy to celebrate Valentines? At the turn of the 21st century, everything is changing, and I love it.

Here’s why:

1. Independence is a great feeling to possess.

a. From a guy’s perspective

b. From a gal’s perspective

c. For all of y’all

then on top of that I’m going to give a list of

Things to do as a Single Valentiner

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1. Independence is a great feeling to possess.

Since I could remember (probably 10 years back or more EEK!), being without a valentines or with that special someone would mean death–a real slugger. It would indicate that you were a lackluster in love, a loser of love-ish sorts.  You were that dim bulb dragging his/her feet down the hallways while couples would mock and point you down.  Let’s face it, you were a lonely loner. That or this could very well be my portrayal of what 9th grade looked like on a sunny valentines.

Fast forward to 2011, now, and what you have are perfectly lonely loners–The Independents. Those who are perfectly happy being without someone.

a. From a guy’s perspective

Yes, You are.

You don’t need a woman in fact you don’t even want one. It’s great isn’t it? To be free of the perils that these ladies lay out for you? You don’t need to think about what to get for her, nor do you need to stress about what she’s up to while you’re away from her. Calling her everyday is non-existent. Waiting for her to do her make-up, get dressed, pay for her shopping bills are relinquished. No more nagging, no more trying to change your boyish ways! Those days are over! You.are.single. Enjoy it.

b. From a gal’s perspective


You don’t need a man, let alone want one.  Hell, it’s gotta feel pretty damn good. I’m getting the chills just by deliberating it! You can trample all over them because they don’t matter. If they don’t like it, you’re walking! You already have your priorities straight. Sides, you are perfectly aware that there are so many more out there for you to choose from. If it didn’t work out for you this time, it will another just like an assembly line. You don’t need to think about fighting for his affections with other women; you are in a league of your own. You are stress-free, free from any obligation.

It’s empowering to be independent from a man. You are the Queen of your own world–no king needed.

c. For all of y’all

Of course, there are perks to having someone by your side, but think about your predicament–you have no one.

So you can either do two things:

I.  Look for anyone to fill that temporary position.

When you look for someone to fill that temporary position, this screams insecurity. To put it bluntly, you’re afraid of being alone! You must be those serial monogamists who have never breathed a day being single. You forgot what oxygen tasted like. It’s something unfamiliar to you. Fair enough, you’ve just been kicked out of your comfort zone i.e. relationship haven.


Too many people who have fallen out of love have told me that the only way to get over the person is by replacing them with somebody else. WRONG. But I won’t go into details with this one, I’ll save it for my other articles.

What it comes down to is that when you look for anyone, you’re carrying unnecessary baggage just because you’re afraid of being alone. It’s really not worth it, instead why don’t you…

II. Have standards, don’t settle for just anything that walks, and STAY PUT.

When you do this, you’re saying to the world that you’re secure. You’re happy with who you are, and you don’t need anyone to reaffirm this.

When you have standards, not only do you have self-respect but it also guarantees that when you do decide to settle down with someone it will be someone you truly want to be with–someone right.

So, now that we’ve gotten an army of Single Valentiners here is

Things to do as a Single Valentiners

1. Organize a dinner for fellow singletons.

What better way to celebrate valentines then to form a group of your fellow same sex singletons? You’re single and hell they’re single too!  Go out for a great appetizing dinner [no homo], for ladies, you girls can have a romantic meal over candlelight. Talk about your scandals, sexcapades or play childish games like never ever. Immerse yourself in the joy of just having plain good fun with your friends. That’s what one of my girlies is doing for her Valentines and she’s so excited about it!

2. Have a ladies/men night out

Men's Night Out HU HA!

Now for your information, the people who are out and about partying are Single Valentiners (save for the few who are in long distance relationships). Not everyone is going to be moping at home. So after dinner why not head to town and dance the night away! This is a great time to sift through the ones who are single and the ones who are taken, basically because the ones who are taken won’t be there! This is your lucky day to strike up great conversation with a complete stranger looking to have a fun time.

All right, I know I know, Valentine’s day falls on a Monday. No outrageous

Ladies Night Out

parties, fine fair enough (actually it really depends on where you’re located, if in Hong Kong, then you’re most probably right). But that’s why it’s great to just enjoy the time without having to look for someone while you’re there. You don’t even have to dash to a club you can just go to a regular bar and talk over drinks! Play truth or dare. If there are prospects around, use them! The whole objective is just to have an amusing time.

3. A date for two with your best friend

If you don’t want a group of people, then why not your best friend or a good buddy of yours?

For the ladies, you can stay in your PJ’s and watch sappy romantic movies over popcorn or chocolate (yummm).


For men, you can watch the sports channel, dick flick or a chick flick even, it’ll be just between the two of you anyways, plus I bet you want to know what makes Zac Efron irresistibly hot to women.

4. Dress up as Cupid



Don’t be alone this Valentines! Do something different this time around, explore a little 😉

And for those who have a date, have a smashing time, consider yourself lucky! You’ve got somebody to romance! 😀